The Common Mistakes Experienced By Divorce LawyersChristine OKelly
January 28, 2009 — 968 views
Divorce lawyers often meet with clients, but all too often not before serious mistakes have already been made. These mistakes can often change the outcome of a case and make things more difficult for everyone involved. Here are some common mistakes that couples often make as they begin the separation process.
Let Your Lawyer Do His Job
It's normal to be anxious and worried as your case progresses. However, you cannot interfere with a divorce lawyer's ability to do his or her job. You need to be supportive of your legal professional's attempts to work on your behalf. If you try to do things on your own, you will be working against your own divorce lawyers and will ultimately create holes in your case. If you have a question as to whether you should do something or not, be sure to ask. They are there to assist and work with you. If you're unsure what your legal team is doing on your behalf, the solution is simple, just ask. He or she will be happy to explain the course of action they have taken and the reason behind their decisions.
Control Your Emotions
A divorce can be an emotionally charged situation for everyone involved. It's often difficult to distinguish actions that originated from sound reasonable decisions and those that evolved out of anger and hurt. These feelings can lead to stubbornness and disagreements with the wrong steps devastating a case. Before you do anything, think it through completely in a calm and rational manner. It may even be helpful to discuss your proposed plan of action with someone that is not directly involved to gain a fresh perspective.
Read Your Paperwork
For many people, reading anything written by a lawyer or on a legal form may prove to be difficult. Unfortunately, too many people respond to this situation by creating a file and saving all of the papers and forms in a pile without looking closely as to the content or the action required. It's important to remember that divorce lawyers don't know everything about you and mistakes can happen. When you receive papers from your divorce lawyer, take the time to examine them carefully and make sure all of the information stated is correct. It's much easier to correct an error early on in the game rather than letting the error compound into a potentially devastating situation.
Understand The Situation
Family law attorneys usually see one out of three common situations in new clients. The first situation is worrying over losing more at the end of the divorce than they should. The second is expecting to gain more than they are entitled to in a fair and equitable settlement. The third is having no expectations of what they will gain or lose.
In reality, neither side of a case is going to lose everything or gain everything. As you enter the process, it is important that you have an open mind and realistic assumptions. If you're unsure, don't be afraid to talk with your attorney, as they prefer to keep the lines of communications open at all times.
Divorce lawyers in Chicago and those across the country will always do their best to represent you as fairly as possible. In return, they need your respect, cooperation, and patience as they work on your behalf. Being aware of some of the most common mistakes made in the process is a step in the right direction.
About the Author
Christine O'Kelly is an author for Votja Law, the practice of fierce Chicago divorce lawyer John C. Votja. For experienced and knowledgeable divorce lawyers in Chicago, clients facing any type of family law matter have relied on this powerful attorney since 1982.